
Gimme More!
A well known, but a really overlooked and neglected issue this is. We fall in Love, taste the pleasures of touching different sex, and then, it becomes almost impossible to say no to the real pleasure of experiencing the thing called ‘sex’. And so young kids of the age of 15-16, lose their virginity, without even physically prepared enough to handle the consequences.
There is nothing wrong in gaining pleasure out of nature’s such beautiful thing-which is also, actually, ‘meant to be done.’ But then, what is the fear? Why is it a sin in all the existing religious texts till today? The reason is that all pleasures in this world are to be taken in a limited quantity and in a way not harmful to one’s self. I mean, if each-n–every boy or girl of this world started having sex with all the other known boy/gal, right since the age of 15/16, nobody would be interested in marriages, or commitment, and then, not a single human would take over the responsibility of bringing up kids or carrying a family. Abortions would be a normal day-to-day activity and loads of children would be left orphan.
Even if we look at it on individual basis - 80% of girls who lost their virginity early would agree that they haven’t done any good. They have in turn hurt themselves.
A woman having the responsibility to carry a child in her womb, has to go through much more pain (and bleeding) than a man who just goes through a bit of oooh-ouch! And the case gets worse if by-chance you get pregnant(ofcourse! even after all those condoms), because once pregnant, its really hard to handle the abortions after one-month, and believe me you’re going to see a hell if you’re below 18!
Here are some of the points kept by women who lost virginity early in their life, explaining as to why not lose your virginity before marriage.
1) “Its so good to give yourself completely to the person you marry and make having sex a great experience. I regret not having that opportunity.”
2) “Its not a surety that the person you are losing virginity to will not leave you- and when he does, it becomes emotionally unbearable!”
3) “Even if you don’t know how to do the thing, you on’t worry about what you’re missing on if you truly love the person”.
4) “Marriage isnt just about sex... its just one of the benefits.”
5) “Taking pregnancy pills and aborting even a two-month child is a strict no-no for young girls below 18. Its medically not advisable.”
6) “I am not sure if I will still enjoy the same fun with my husband after 20 years becos I am already used to doing it all and would be sick of it in some-time.”
But there can be some points taken as benefits as when you are an experienced rider, there are less chances of accidents and moreover, you concentrate on enjoying the drive rather than how to drive.
So, what is important? Enjoyment with a hell lot of risk or the enjoyment after a safe-sound period of time. Everything, in this world, if done at the right time, gives the best results. If you try to learn the maths of 10th level at the age of studying tables, you would surely go insane.(Not much of a harm!)
At the end, Even if a million people say that a wrong thing is right, it still remains wrong.
Growing youth power is out to experiment, for better or worse.
Its not the question of virginity or losing virginity, the result is that fewer stable relationships are crystallizing.
The morning after, all the promises of love made are thrashed.
Moral policing or talks about morality are passe, but we cannot abandon the young to whatever they temporarily find indulgence in.
See the hell or the heaven is determined on the basis of the society you are living in. You are expressing your views freely only because you are born in free society. Sex in the western world does not make a huge difference and virginity myth has lost the battleground.. However, in other societies like Islam or in Mideast world, it matters a lot even when it's for the fairer sex only. this is an intricate issue and therefore couldn't be discussed everywhere with the same vigor.
Whatever! I think to be a virgin or not be is one’s personal choice. As far as the pregnancies are concerned, plz refer to Justins’s comment.
@Justin.
Hey Justin! Cool comment man. I like it.
I really don’t why anybody would feel guilty about losing their virginity. It sounds really funny. Although I do agree that the Indian society by and large is very hypocrytic, but the end of the day isn’t it up to us to break the hypocrisy and get on with it?
That’s precisely what i said mate. At the end of the day it’s up to that particular person rather than the so called society. BTW, though losing virginity is taboo in a few parts of the world, at the end of the day, there are plenty of people who lose their virginity before marriage in the so-called conservative parts of the world too. So it’s not as big a deal as a few people in this forum are making it to be.
@ Sanwali- I agre to your example, thats a different case altogether, but normally, people in our country, do marry at considerable 25-26.
Anyway, here in Zambia, that is a topical issues as well.
However, many youhts have lost their virginity as I write this piece, largely because of experimenting and peer pressure.
Virginity was a sacred thing in the past but now, finding a virgin is like fishing in the dark. Some youths openly have sex.
It is all about moral decay and personal and societal attitudes.
Virginity is a matter of dignity and not a matter of opportunity for people in many Indian households where such values are given high priority…but then again value systems to differ
It ought to be a hell if your next boyfriend is a good friend of your first go.
Thank you so much.
Local Opinions (34)
Growing youth power is out to experiment, for better or worse.
Its not the question of virginity or losing virginity, the result is that fewer stable relationships are crystallizing.
The morning after, all the promises of love made are thrashed.
Moral policing or talks about morality are passe, but we cannot abandon the young to whatever they temporarily find indulgence in.
See the hell or the heaven is determined on the basis of the society you are living in. You are expressing your views freely only because you are born in free society. Sex in the western world does not make a huge difference and virginity myth has lost the battleground.. However, in other societies like Islam or in Mideast world, it matters a lot even when it's for the fairer sex only. this is an intricate issue and therefore couldn't be discussed everywhere with the same vigor.
Whatever! I think to be a virgin or not be is one’s personal choice. As far as the pregnancies are concerned, plz refer to Justins’s comment.
@Justin.
Hey Justin! Cool comment man. I like it.
I really don’t why anybody would feel guilty about losing their virginity. It sounds really funny. Although I do agree that the Indian society by and large is very hypocrytic, but the end of the day isn’t it up to us to break the hypocrisy and get on with it?
That’s precisely what i said mate. At the end of the day it’s up to that particular person rather than the so called society. BTW, though losing virginity is taboo in a few parts of the world, at the end of the day, there are plenty of people who lose their virginity before marriage in the so-called conservative parts of the world too. So it’s not as big a deal as a few people in this forum are making it to be.
@ Sanwali- I agre to your example, thats a different case altogether, but normally, people in our country, do marry at considerable 25-26.
Anyway, here in Zambia, that is a topical issues as well.
However, many youhts have lost their virginity as I write this piece, largely because of experimenting and peer pressure.
Virginity was a sacred thing in the past but now, finding a virgin is like fishing in the dark. Some youths openly have sex.
It is all about moral decay and personal and societal attitudes.
Virginity is a matter of dignity and not a matter of opportunity for people in many Indian households where such values are given high priority…but then again value systems to differ
It ought to be a hell if your next boyfriend is a good friend of your first go.
Thank you so much.
Global Opinions (34)
Growing youth power is out to experiment, for better or worse.
Its not the question of virginity or losing virginity, the result is that fewer stable relationships are crystallizing.
The morning after, all the promises of love made are thrashed.
Moral policing or talks about morality are passe, but we cannot abandon the young to whatever they temporarily find indulgence in.
See the hell or the heaven is determined on the basis of the society you are living in. You are expressing your views freely only because you are born in free society. Sex in the western world does not make a huge difference and virginity myth has lost the battleground.. However, in other societies like Islam or in Mideast world, it matters a lot even when it's for the fairer sex only. this is an intricate issue and therefore couldn't be discussed everywhere with the same vigor.
Whatever! I think to be a virgin or not be is one’s personal choice. As far as the pregnancies are concerned, plz refer to Justins’s comment.
@Justin.
Hey Justin! Cool comment man. I like it.
I really don’t why anybody would feel guilty about losing their virginity. It sounds really funny. Although I do agree that the Indian society by and large is very hypocrytic, but the end of the day isn’t it up to us to break the hypocrisy and get on with it?
That’s precisely what i said mate. At the end of the day it’s up to that particular person rather than the so called society. BTW, though losing virginity is taboo in a few parts of the world, at the end of the day, there are plenty of people who lose their virginity before marriage in the so-called conservative parts of the world too. So it’s not as big a deal as a few people in this forum are making it to be.
@ Sanwali- I agre to your example, thats a different case altogether, but normally, people in our country, do marry at considerable 25-26.
Anyway, here in Zambia, that is a topical issues as well.
However, many youhts have lost their virginity as I write this piece, largely because of experimenting and peer pressure.
Virginity was a sacred thing in the past but now, finding a virgin is like fishing in the dark. Some youths openly have sex.
It is all about moral decay and personal and societal attitudes.
Virginity is a matter of dignity and not a matter of opportunity for people in many Indian households where such values are given high priority…but then again value systems to differ
It ought to be a hell if your next boyfriend is a good friend of your first go.
Thank you so much.
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